When I was a little girl, there was a pair of double wide trailers that sat off to the side of an oft-traveled road. We would drive by frequently, and I would always say “that’s where Kelly and Kristy live.”
I had never been to those homes, had no real idea who lived there, but somewhere along the way, I’d decided it was a pair of sisters who lived in matching trailers whose names were Kelly and Kristy. I never interacted with them, they just….existed.
A few months ago, we started hearing about Din. Din lives in a brick house. Din has blue eyes. Din is almost ten. Din is Cooper’s imaginary friend!
What is most interesting to me is that Cooper and Din never interact in the present. They have sometimes interacted in the past, as in “Mama, benember when Din and Gabe and me went to that big aquarium?” Or “I saw such-and-such at Din’s house.” But in the present, if I say, “Is Din coming over today?” I find that Din has other plans. “Not today, mama, Din has swim wessons.”
So Din exists, and Cooper has inserted him into his memories, but he never comes over or hangs out with us. Fascinating!
Din has also started receiving blame or credit, depending on the situation.
Me: Who made this mess on the floor? Did someone spill something?
Cooper: I don’t know, maybe Din did it.
Paul: Uh oh, looks like someone threw some trash on the grass.
Cooper: I bet Din did it. Din litters.
So far, Cooper hasn’t tried to blame Din for something he himself has done. Din is just a possible answer to “who did this?” Cooper was not responsible for either of the above situations, so he was just offering up another possible culprit. Maybe it was Din.
About a week ago, Cooper and I were in the van and he said “Mama, I want to hear the Lego song.” I said I didn’t know a Lego song, and Cooper said “No, mama, look on your phone.” (smart boy!) I said I didn’t have a Lego song on my phone, and Cooper said, very disappointedly, “Oh…Din has one. He has it on his iPad.” Clearly, Din has proven himself to be cooler than I.
If you get the chance to talk to Cooper in the next few weeks, please ask him about Din. You can ask any question and Coops will give you an answer. Din has a backstory that stays pretty consistent, but if you ask a new question, Cooper will readily provide an answer on the spot. I love it!
Have you had any positive/negative experiences with imaginary friends? I’d love to hear about them!